Love works best while laughing

 “Laugh as much as you breathe and love as long as you live.”

Love while laughing...

After a slight disagreement with the one I love, I took off my shoes. We were both so upset and just kept talking. However when he looked down at my feet he stopped and said, “Are your socks two different colors?" and I said, "Yes" with a straight face.  However, he could not contain it- he burst into a big smile.  I had worn one black sock and one white sock; needless to say, the laughter burst out, and, it also broke the tension. The laughter brought us back together. It is so important not to take each other too seriously. It is also important not to take life too seriously.

Laughter is the best medicine.  
 It is important that you are around people who allow you to be you. The one you choose to spend your life with needs to be one that you can laugh with. We all find different things humorous. I have some friends that I just do not understand their wit; however their other half thinks they are the greatest thing on earth. And you know what folks? That is all that matters. Love is full of challenges but it is also full of laughter.  The Scripture says that the Joy of the Lord is our strength.  Joy in your friendships, relationships and in your marriages will bring strength. Go the extra mile to make one another laugh; if there has not been much laughter in your relationships, go see a funny movie.  Do anything to get those endorphins going. Laughter is medicine for your soul and for your relationships. Choose to smile, choose to forgive quickly, look at the brighter things of life.  Never go to sleep angry and if you do, make sure when you wake up you resolve it. Learn to play, do things that you love together! Never let the childlikeness in neither of you die.

 Let your fountain be blessed, And rejoice in the wife of your youth-Psalms 5:18

All you need in the world is love and laughter. That's all anybody needs. To have love in one hand and laughter in the other.
August Wilson

Consistency in love

Let me not to the marriage of true minds
Admit impediments. Love is not love
Which alters when it alteration finds,
Or bends with the remover to remove:
O no! it is an ever-fixed mark
That looks on tempests and is never shaken;
It is the star to every wandering bark,
Whose worth's unknown, although his height be taken.
Love's not Time's fool, though rosy lips and cheeks
Within his bending sickle's compass come:
Love alters not with his brief hours and weeks,
But bears it out even to the edge of doom.

If this be error and upon me proved,
   I never writ, nor no man ever loved. -Shakespeare

Love alters not when alteration finds; love changes not when it has the opportunity. It stays true and constant, it does not bend or break, and it is not shaken or easily removed. 
 When you say “I do” to love, that “I do” should be consistent. I am not just talking about marriage: I am talking about a relationship in which we have made a commitment to love someone, support them and walk with them. Our love should be dependable, and our love should be consistent. Our love should not be one that runs in the face of adversity or difficulty. The one thing someone needs in the face of trial is consistency. People want and need to know that you will be you and your love will stay true even when or if they have done something to hurt you, or have found themselves in a bind.  Love alters not with his brief hour or weeks of time:  if you are in it to win it, then you are in it. Come what may, love stays, love finds away. This thing called "LOVE" is not for the faint hearted, or the selfish. It is for those who are selfless and understand the value in living- not just for themselves, but for others as well. Make a pledge to stick with people, make a pledge to work it, make a pledge to not play games with love. Giving it and taking it away from the one you have shared it with. Love is a powerful tool, that can either break or mend, restore or destroy. How you use it in your hands determines the fruit from it. It should not change at any opportunity, it should not be fickle or double minded, love is stable. People should be able to rest in your love, trust in your words and hold on to your confessions.

Determination in Love

 

Love is not about finishing first it is bout finishing well. It is about choosing to not give up  and not give in.  I Once heard that in love and marriage it is not always about who is right, but what is right. It is about choosing your battles wisely. It is about character, and being able to say I am sorry. It is about picking up the other person  when they are in their weakest moment. Love is about covering one another, honoring one another, and choosing the best thing for each other. It is about making a decision and sticking to it. Real love is about having the determination to end well. Real love understands that anything can happen, a spouse may get sick, a friend may betray you, you may find yourself with no money or whatever we consider tragedy. But love says "we are in this together, we started this so lets finish it". Remember the race is not given to the swift but to him that endures. Love is not about a destination, it is a journey of uncovering someone and learning them bit by bit, day by day. Love is learning to get up when we come short in love, in serving, in giving all you can give. Love is fixing your eyes on the prize, the prize of modeling the greatest love story told to man, of a king who lowered himself to pursue a bride who rejected him, even with piercings on his side he never gave up on that bride, he loved his bride to the death and continues to fight for her. In covenant marriage that is what love is about.

Choices

“Love does not begin and end the way we seem to think it does. Love is a battle, love is a war; love is a growing up.” ― James Baldwin

Love is a choice.
Some people have been Divinely brought together, others through a match. Regardless if your match was magical or not, in order to stay together you will have to make a choice. Love is about finding the one that fits you, loves you, protects and fights for you, and your choice to love them consistently even during the ups and downs. There are a lot of people in the world who may be
more handsome or more beautiful. There will always be someone smarter or
tougher. The thing with Love is you knowing that the one you are with is the one for
you.  Do not worry about the outside appearance: what matters the most is his or her
heart. Remember that God looks at the Heart of man. When you have made that
decision, choose to choose them everyday, when you want to give up, when you want
to walk away. Through differences, misunderstandings betrayals ALWAYS   show
the love of God. These opportunities are the time to choose to fight for your
relationship, choose to forgive and choose to love. 

Good relationships and good marriages are not made by some magical power  they
are made by two people who have chosen to love each other for a lifetime. 
So go ahead, take a risk and choose to love someone!   

Trust

Trust.

 I wrote this note during a season in which i realized God was preparing me for my mate. The more the prophecies came, the more nervous i became. I realized that due to my past relationships, i had to once again learn how to trust a human with my heart. It was easy to trust God because I know his character and even though he can be unpredictable, he is still good. But a human being, that was a different story. So i spent several weeks, sit with God learning how to trust. It is pivotal to trust if you fully want to love and be loved. These are just some thoughts from my journey.

The key to learning how to trust again and healing from past hurts is by learning how to identify those around you that can hold you heart, and then giving it to them one piece at a time. Healing requires releasing pieces of yourself into someone Else's hands. I am now learning that. Actually this morning, the lord had me write down some of my deepest hurts and pains that are keeping from moving forward in my walk with daddy God. I sometimes i am a better writer than speaker, so I thought as I wrote the things down that was it. However, I knew it was not enough to hide those things in my journal. I knew that I had to share them, that I had to release them. In doing so I was trusting the person I was giving these pieces of me too. I was doing the very thing which I had felt I was unable to do. Jesus told me to tell my friend, and to let my friend hold this in his hand. It was scary but it was good. 1. because I was allowing myself to feel things I hadn’t allowed myself to feel in along time. I was allowing myself to go into that place, of confusion and disappointment. I allowed myself to be transparent and in doing so I allowed myself to trust.

  I am now realizing that I have to take my heart and allow someone else to hold it. It’s easier to say I will give it to God and we should. But I think true healing comes as you give your heart to a fallible human, who is capable of breaking it but you are TRUSTING they won’t. We all have to come to that place where we can be brave like that. I do not suggest throwing your heart to swine, but I believe God brings certain people in your life so that they can hold it for you when you are unable to put it back together. They do not need to fix it, they just need to hold the pieces together, when you can’t hold it together. We are communal beings, we need each other. God has called us to hold pieces of people and in due time help put them back together with the wisdom of the Lord. Thanks to those that hold the pieces of my heart that I am ashamed of, or scared to deal with, or too painful. Thanks helping me heal, thanks for listening, and restoring, Thanks to Jesus for friendship.